All-Or-Nothing Is Whack. It’s Your Resistance Talking. Stop Listening.
Like the “Go Big Or Go Home” mentality, All-Or-Nothing is a foray in extremes.
It’s clichéd conventional wisdom that tells you to take a bigger risk in order to experience a bigger pay-off, right now.
It belittles incremental steps towards a goal in favor for grand and sweeping gestures. While that’s awfully cinematic (imagine this great big leap in the montage of your life), it’s also excellently skewed.
Here’s the thing: I used to subconsciously subscribe to the all-or-nothing mentality. If I couldn’t excel immediately, then I didn’t try it.
I wasn’t into steep learning curves. I wanted it all, right away.
This is because I used to equate mistakes with failure. I took failure personally. Failing at one task (even a small thing) meant that I was, and would always be, a failure.
Ever since I became aware of my all-or-nothing attitude, I haven’t been able to shake what I experientially know to be true.
Instant mastery is impossible.
True mastery takes practice. Devotion. Training. Think of the young piano protégé who spends hours honing her skills.
The journey towards crazy-skilled level of genius is fraught with stumbles and breakthroughs. The learning process is, and will always be, deeply humbling.
Mastery requires vulnerability, openness and earnestness. It recognizes imperfection in order to move towards perfection. It is cumulative.
When given the choice, I go home. Going big isn’t my thing. It’s not that I’m risk averse, but rather that I know some big goals depend upon a series of small actions.
When all-or-nothing creeps into my consciousness, I recognize it for what it is: Resistance. A reason to quit before I start.