Shame, Defined by Brene Brown
If you’ve been following along, then you know I’ve recently been exploring Shame. My own feelings of it and how I think it’s connected to fear.
Through serendipity, I found myself watching Brene Brown’s TedxHouston talk tonight. Brene is a social worker, storyteller and researcher who is fascinated by connection.
We’re soul sisters in that – I’m also obsessively interested in the interconnectedness of humanity.
For her doctoral research, Brene wanted to interview people and understand connection. But, something strange happened. Every time she wanted to talk about connection, people responded with stories of times they felt disconnected.
At this point, Brene came to realize there was an unnamed and elusive force that undermines connection. She wanted to figure it out.
I’m sure you can guess, but I’ll post the question anyway: What do you think unravels connection?
In her research, Brene found the culprit — Shame.
“Shame, which is easily understood as fear of disconnection. Is there something about me, that if other people know it or see it, I won’t be worthy of connection?”
Shame is the fear of not being good enough. Shame is universal. Shame is vulnerable. And vulnerability – allowing ourselves to be really seen – is necessary to form connections.
Brene has some crazy good insights on how to live with vulnerability. Please watch her talk below.